The Plant You Forgot to Water
Why Money Might Be the Key to Your Growth
We take responsibility for so many things in our lives.
We read about attachment styles to improve our relationships. We go to therapy. We try to eat better, sleep more, lift heavy things. We read parenting books, chase promotions, listen to podcasts on productivity. We’re out here tending to our lives like a well-kept garden.
Health. Love. Work. Family.
Each one gets attention, time, effort.
And then there’s money.
Sitting there. In the corner. A little wilted, half in the shade, hoping we don’t notice.
Most people have this one corner in their “life garden” they don’t touch. And more often than not, that corner is money.
We avoid it. Outsource it. Tell ourselves we’re “not good with it.”
Or that we’ll get to it later.
Or that it’s just not who we are.
But here’s the thing: the part of your life you avoid the most?
That’s usually the one that’s most ready to grow.
The Blind Spot That Runs the Show
Money is a strange one.
It feels too boring to care about, too complex to understand, too shameful to talk about, and somehow too personal and too impersonal all at once.
So we ignore it.
We leave it to our partners.
We tell ourselves we’ll think about it when we make more, or when we’re older, or when we finally feel “ready.”
We treat it like some foreign language other people just happen to speak.
But avoiding it doesn’t make it go away. It just means we stay small. Dependent. Anxious. Quiet.
And slowly, we start to shape our lives around the limitation - making choices not from freedom, but from fear.
Turning down risks. Shrinking dreams. Staying in jobs we’ve outgrown. Silencing the part of us that wants more.
All while tending lovingly to everything else.
Imagine Your Life as a Garden
Just imagine it for a second.
Your life is a garden.
And you’ve been nurturing so much of it - your body, your friendships, your kids, your inner healing, your creativity.
But way in the back, there’s this dry patch.
It’s not dead. Just… ignored.
And the longer you leave it, the harder it feels to deal with. You think maybe it’s too late. Maybe you’re just not that kind of gardener. Maybe that soil can’t be saved.
But what if that patch - the one you’ve been avoiding - is the one with the most potential?
What if you just needed to water it?
Let’s Face It. Growth Rarely Starts Gracefully
Starting is awkward. Always.
The first workout. The first time you stand up for yourself. The first email you write for your business. The first therapy session where you don’t know what to say.
And the first time you really look at your money.
It’s okay if it’s clumsy. If you feel dumb. If you have to Google half the words. If your nervous system throws a tantrum and you want to cry or run away or take a nap instead.
That’s part of it.
Your discomfort doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It means you’re entering a new space. It means you're breaking a pattern.
It means you’ve stopped pretending this part of your life doesn’t matter.
What You Resist Holds Power
You know this. Deep down.
The more you avoid something, the more energy it seems to have.
The more it sits in the background of your mind like a tab you forgot to close.
It drains you. Quietly, constantly.
That’s not just about money. That’s true for anything.
But money is one of the few areas where we’re taught it’s normal to stay ignorant.
Most of us didn’t see women talking about money growing up. Or not in a positive way. We didn’t see them investing, negotiating, owning, planning. So now we hold this weird shame, as if we should know - but no one ever taught us how.
You’re not late. You’re not broken. You’re not bad with money.
You’re just early in your process. And that’s okay.
You Don’t Need to Fix Everything Overnight
This post isn’t about mastering money.
It’s not about buying Bitcoin or opening an ETF or automating your retirement accounts this weekend. It’s just an invitation to look.
To peek into that part of your garden.
To admit to yourself that it matters.
And to start giving it a little sunlight.
Because once you do, you might be surprised how fast things grow.
Start messy. Start small. But start.
You don’t need to fix everything overnight.
But you can stop pretending this part of your life doesn’t matter.
Start messy. Start unsure. Just start.
Because this part of your life? It’s ready for you. You just have to take a look and allow it to grow.
Your first step can be as simple as signing up for the waitlist for my “Mystery Money” course here. And see what that feels like. Is it exciting? Scary? Are you a little bit proud? Whatever it is, it’s okay. And very normal. You are not alone.
